More recently, a 2016 US National Health Statistics report found that over 17 percent of women between the ages of 18 and 44 had experienced sexual contact with other women. But only 6.8 percent of them identified as lesbian or bisexual!<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is a first-time for everything, say the more adventurous among us. And \u2013 like all maiden voyages \u2013 your first girl-on-girl experience can be rather nerve-wracking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For now, the first thing you need to do is manage your expectations. Despite what you\u2019ve seen in the movies, first time romps are rarely the most orgasm-inducing, mind-blowing sensual experiences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That said, sex between two women can be at once strange, liberating, and beautiful, say experienced dabblers. The cute panties<\/a>, the lace<\/a>, the first soft, exploratory kisses \u2013 all that can be quite intoxicating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But if you\u2019ve never done it before, the intimacy may seem a little intimidating at first. Below are few things you need to know before you, well, \u201cdive into it,\u201d as they say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The best way to learn how to please a woman is to learn to how to please yourself. While every woman is different, masturbation is a great way to learn more about the female anatomy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Take the time to get to know your own erogenous zones. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Investigate what pleasures those intimate parts of you that are likely to come into play – from your nipples to your clitoris to your g-spot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If it feels good to you, then it will most likely feel good to someone else, as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThere’s no better way to get some practice in than masturbation,\u201d say the folks at Cosmopolitan. \u201cIf you’re a regular wanker, great. If not, perhaps now is the time to learn how to masturbate like a pro \u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n The decision to have sex with a woman for the first time is a big step in your sexual journey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n While there is nothing wrong with engaging in casual sex, embarking on that journey with someone you trust ensures that it\u2019s a comfortable experience for you. Good sex, after all, is about good communication – and that is especially true for your first time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s why trust is important. You will need to talk things out openly and honestly with your prospective partner. Instead of looking to porn for tips on how to please your lady, ask her what she likes. If she doesn\u2019t know or is too shy to tell you, start slowly. Ask her what feels good as you proceed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t forget to speak up for yourself, too. Just as you want your partner to enjoy the experience, she wants you to feel good, as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Perhaps even more important, never be afraid to say you’ve changed your mind about something \u2013 and listen carefully to what your partner says, too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nobody can force you to do anything you don\u2019t want to do. And, just as it is with a male partner, if it isn\u2019t consensual, it\u2019s assault.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Regardless of your partner\u2019s gender, your first-time is likely to cause some anxiety. You may be feeling anxious about pleasing your partner or worried about sharing your body. <\/p>\n\n\n\n For whatever reason, everyone gets the jitters. That\u2019s just part of it. Take time to figure out if your worries are valid or just the normal, run-of-the-mill apprehensions you\u2019d expect from any first-timer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your health is the best indicator here. If you have any reason at all to fear for your own health and safety, then your concerns require serious consideration. Step back, give yourself time to deliberate, and re-think the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember, your health and safety should always be first and foremost in your mind. There is a common misconception that lesbian sex is safe sex. That\u2019s just plain hogwash. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Women can catch STIs such as herpes, genital warts, and chlamydia from other women when exchanging bodily fluids. Oral sex, or even using the same hand when touching yourself and then your partner, can put you at real risk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You and your partner should have yourselves screened for STIs \u2013 and coronavirus, of course<\/em> – so that you both know your status. Regular health screenings and pelvic exams are a must, anyway. Don\u2019t let this one slide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now, once you\u2019ve started getting down and dirty, make sure that you and your partner use barrier methods whenever appropriate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Use dental dams or a split-open condom for oral sex if necessary. You can also use latex or nitrile gloves for manual stimulation and condoms for shared sex toys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cNothing kills the mood like taking risks with your sexual health,\u201d say the experts at Astroglide. \u201cMake sure you and your partner enjoy your first time by taking the proper precautions.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ve probably seen some girl-on-girl porn. See how those women have long, red, polished fingernails? Well, those can be a problem. Different women have different preferences, of course, but in general, most women wouldn\u2019t want those nails anywhere near their vulvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You know for a fact that the tissues of a woman\u2019s vulva and vagina are extremely sensitive. These areas need to be treated with care at all times. If you want to be sure that she\u2019s moaning from pleasure, not pain, skip the nail polish and reach for nail clippers instead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The plain truth of the matter is that so much of the information and sexual imagery we encounter is focused around the male libido. This sorry state of our cultural affairs can make it hard for most women to know what really matters to other women in the bedroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The fact is, even the majority of \u201clesbian porn\u201d we see online today is created and produced for straight men, not women. These things add up, leading to great deal of muddle, misperception, and misinformation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The advice we\u2019ve given above is by no means complete. Far from it, in fact. You\u2019ll need to do some research and soul-searching on your own. But if you really are ready to take the plunge, then we hope we\u2019ve helped to settle at least a few questions for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What’s your story? Why not share it so that others can gain from your experience?<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Your first time? The intimacy may seem a little intimidating. 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The First-Time is Always Daunting<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. Know your own body.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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2. Choose someone you trust.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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3. Deal with any doubts and misgivings early on.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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4. Be safe. Seriously.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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5. Trim your nails.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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The Plain Truth<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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