{"id":53,"date":"2020-08-02T03:52:20","date_gmt":"2020-08-02T03:52:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stories.mysecretdrawer.co\/2020\/08\/02\/6-things-your-man-wants-you-to-do-in-bed-but-is-too-afraid-to-ask\/"},"modified":"2020-08-02T03:52:20","modified_gmt":"2020-08-02T03:52:20","slug":"6-things-your-man-wants-you-to-do-in-bed-but-is-too-afraid-to-ask","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/espressoblues.com\/stories\/6-things-your-man-wants-you-to-do-in-bed-but-is-too-afraid-to-ask\/","title":{"rendered":"Six Things Your Man Wants You to Do in Bed but is Too Afraid to Ask"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Did you miss the real themes behind stories like Little Red Riding Hood and Bluebeard\u2019s Castle when you were a toddler? They should be quite obvious to most of us now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The implicit ruthlessness of the male libido has been the subject of myth and fairy tale from the beginning of literature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Distress over its feral nature might, in part, explain why so much of male sexuality is cloaked in mystery.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one talks about it candidly, not even men. A great deal of posturing and good old-fashioned chest-thumping goes on, but not much else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all suspect that much of what we see on display is hollow, anyway, and in many ways, our suspicions are well-founded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The implicit ruthlessness of the male libido has been the subject of myth and of fairy tale from the beginning of literature.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

What He Wants You to Do <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The fact is, for all the mythology surrounding its power and potency, the masculine libido can, at times, be as brittle as the notoriously fragile male ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s often why finding out exactly what your man wants in bed can be tricky. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

While many men want to try new things in the bedroom, all too often they are afraid to ask for fear of appearing silly or less ‘masculine’.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEven though society says we\u2019re supposed to be tough, lots of men become completely terrified at the prospect of something as simple as asking for what we want in bed,\u201d says Spencer Phillips of Bolde Magazine<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are, as always, here to help. Below are six things your man might want you to do in bed but is too afraid to ask.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. He likes it when you flirt with him<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

While most people consider flirting to be the sexy prelude that, hopefully, eventually leads to a big, smashing climax, sexual health experts say flirting is a lot more more than just that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The psychological effects of flirting are in themselves pleasurable. Men feel sexually desired when their wife or girlfriend acts flirtatious in ways that suggest that she thinks about him sexually.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAnticipation is not the precursor to pleasure,\u201d says sexual health expert Jessica O\u2019Reilly. \u201cAnticipation is <\/em>pleasure,\u201d she says. \u201cIf you go straight for the goods, you will both miss out on this important stage of pleasure.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In other words, it\u2019s important to take your time and build anticipation with flirtatious gestures. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But do note that touching does not always need to be sexual in nature. In fact, many men like to be touched in ways that are more romantic than they are blatantly sexual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes ladies, most men really do have a need for romance!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The psychological effects of flirting are in themselves pleasurable.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

2. Make the first move from time to time<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Men want you to take the lead from time to time. Seeing to a couple\u2019s entire sex life is a big responsibility. A man can only carry that weight so far. If you\u2019ve been together for a while now, chances are your man is more than ready to share the burden. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In fact, one of the most common complaints that relationship experts hear from couples in therapy is that male partners often feel pressured to initiate sex. That\u2019s just not sexy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMen like to be seduced, they like to feel desired and attractive,\u201d says sex therapist Shamyra for On the Green Couch<\/em>. \u201cInitiating sex sends the message to your man that you want him, which gives him a major confidence boost.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And of course, by initiating sex – and ‘taking the reins’ – you are very likely to get what you want from the encounter!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Men want you to take the lead from time to time.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

3. Don\u2019t just lie there. Do something!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Many men experience more intense sexual pleasure with women who vigorously participate in the act. Sex is a two-way street, after all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hopefully, none of us is still stuck in the ‘think of Mother England\/ good Catholic girl’ era! Humans (along with dolphins) are unique in the animal kingdom for their ‘sex on demand’ ability. We were made to come so don’t hold back!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your active participation i a great ‘turn on’ for your partner. If you’re still digging your way out of your inhibitions, participation may simply mean meeting his thrusts with your own or grinding your hips against him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You might also want to try flexing the muscles that stretch from your pubic bone to the tail bone during coitus. You can do all of these things from any position you find yourself engaged.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be handy, as well. Many men find women\u2019s hands erotic and alluring. Using your hands to please a man will not only heighten this attraction, but it can be satisfying for you, too. Touching his body all over will turn you on while you satisfy him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can also use your mouth to explore more of his body. He is sure to enjoy the silky, smooth, warm moisture of your lips on him. This kind of open, physical participation will let him know you\u2019re enjoying the encounter as much as you hope he is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Many men experience more intense sexual pleasure with women who vigorously participate in the act.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

4. Be loud. Be proud.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Unless you\u2019ve got extremely thin walls, or are otherwise not the expressive type, there is no reason to keep yourself from being vocal during sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sex is about communication, and often enough, your sighs, moans, and screams speak louder than words. They are also an excellent way to signal when he\u2019s doing something right. Positive reinforcement always works wonders!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDo not stifle your sounds or hold your breath,\u201d says sexual health expert, Jessica O\u2019Reilly. \u201cWe tend to do both of these things when we are nervous, but doing so not only hinders your own sexual response, but can cause your partner to tense up as well.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Your sighs, moans, and screams speak louder than words.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

5. Tell him exactly what you want.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

While a man might act like he knows exactly what he\u2019s doing, he will likely appreciate some direction as he navigates his way under the sheets. Don\u2019t equivocate. Tell him exactly what you want and do it like the house is on fire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While ambiguity might have worked during the earlier phases of your journey to the bedroom, it doesn\u2019t help either of you in the sack. Don\u2019t be afraid to ask for what you really want. He\u2019s more likely to welcome your advice and candor than you might think.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTell him how good it feels when he does something right or remind him of a technique that always gets you off,\u201d says Gloria Brame, a sex therapist in Georgia. \u201cIf he\u2019s not giving you enough foreplay, ask him to use his hand or mouth to warm you up, saying that you want to draw out the experience.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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While a man might act like he knows exactly what he\u2019s doing, he will likely appreciate some direction as he navigates his way under the sheets.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

6. Wear the right kind of lingerie.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

For men, what they see is almost as good as what they get. All men (and most women) have a little voyeur hiding inside them. Fulfilling his visual desires is a guaranteed way to get your needs fulfilled in turn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman in sexy, seductive, lingerie is a powerhouse. Beautiful lingerie won’t just make you look gorgeous and desirable, lingerie will also make you feel confident and sexy! Quite simply, sensual lingerie just about guarantees good sex because it signals your intent, mentally and physically!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a woman feels attractive it boosts her confidence. She stands straighter, holds her head higher and even moves in a more sensual manner… in and out of the bedroom!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou should spend your money on some nice lingerie,\u201d says former supermodel Heidi Klum. \u201cBig woollen or cotton pants, that just doesn’t work. You have to feel sexy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sensual lingerie can make any woman feel beautiful and desirable, poised and in control. That liberating feeling of sexy confidence has physical manifestations that most men find attractive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead of scrolling through Facebook in bed, why not browse an online lingerie catalogue<\/strong><\/a> with him? Tell him which designs you love and those you don’t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lingerie comes in every color and a thousand styles, from raunchy to ultra-sophisticated – literally something for every mood and ‘secret drawer’.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, as a bonus, chances are that your mutual lingerie catalogue browsing will end with a very satisfying physical result! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Lingerie comes in every color and a thousand different styles, from outright raunchy to ultra-sophisticated.<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Cherishing Each Other<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Most experts agree that a healthy sexual relationship is built on open communication and trust. Go ahead and encourage your man to tell you what he likes in bed. It won’t hurt to indulge him once in a while… or even regularly!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That said, you don\u2019t have to be open to everything<\/em> and you should never be pressured to do anything you don\u2019t want to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ultimately, sensuality is about gathering momentum as a result of touching. You can more effectively show love and affection by creating \u2013 and cherishing \u2013 moments when you can both completely surrender to each other\u2019s needs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you ready to ask what he wants or do you really<\/em> think you know?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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